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Fake girlfriend lands TV star in hot water

Remember Greg of the popular late '90s TV show Dharma & Greg? Well, turns out that the actor, Thomas Gibson, isn't only married on television but he's also married in real life, which is why what could've been just embarrassing is now a bigger deal.

TMZ is reporting that Gibson allegedly spent the last two years in an online relationship with a fan who snatched photos from porn sites to convince the TV star to send her “explicit photos and video” of himself.  It turns out Gibson’s new internet girlfriend was fake and lifting replies from sites like
In the end, Gibson and his lawyers put an end to the catfishing, once they figured out the woman's photos were not her own. That didn’t stop his digital lover from sharing some of his hot tub videos.
Gibson says it’s all lies.
What can you do to avoid a similar catfish? Try running photos you receive in Google image search… and while you’re at it, dump a portion of the text into a search engine to see if the sweet nothings have already been murmured elsewhere online.

Yes, there's an app for that

Listen up guys, if you're going to send a photo of your johnson to somebody, you might as well dress it up for the occasion. Yes, it's true, there's an app for that. For real.

While normally I write about how to investigate your date, I laughed so loud when I saw this Dickorate app that I thought I'd share the joy with you. The app is for Android and it lets men photograph um "themselves" (supersize too?) and then add on a sombrero, mustache, and more. 

You just can't make this stuff up... check out this screenshot:

Scorned lover creates fake online dating profiles for exes

You just can't make this stuff up...

Apparently a jilted ex-boyfriend created some profiles for his ex-girlfriends on online dating sites. And not just any online dating sites -- he created one on a site for people looking to hook up with prison inmates (and called one of his exes a PORN STAR for fun)! reports that 30-year-old Carl Wayne McGraw, Jr. has been accused by two women of creating multiple fake dating profiles for them online. To make matters worse, the women say McGraw has been using their real names, e-mail addresses, home addresses and phone numbers.

The first woman says she found several fake profiles for herself online after dating McGraw for two months. One of the profiles said she was a "porn star." The second woman says she broke up with McGraw after five months of dating after catching him in "multiple lies." reports that McGraw is a suspect in the investigation and that investigators have charged him with online impersonation.

So, what can you do to safeguard your personal information to prevent it from being used against you? For starters, use your Date-a-Base email address for all communication. Even if someone gives out this email address, it won't matter because it has no direct tie to you (click here to read more about how to create your own Date-a-Base).

Use Google Voice or get a disposable cell phone. There's no need to reveal your true digits to anybody until you're in a long term relationship anymore. The less people have your direct dial -- the better.

Now, again, I'll never throw David Merkur under the bus. Remember him? Highly organized New York singleton with a spreadsheet that caused an uproar. Judge him as you will but I've always come to his defense -- the boy is organized, his only error was a lapse in judgement and sending the darn thing as it was, sans deleting some characters and photos. Nonetheless, his debacle earlier this year should serve as a wake up call to all singletons out there. And that lesson is this: you are responsible for the safekeeping of your own information.

If you don't have a Date-a-Base email, make one now. And while you're at it, do it on Google... it'll boost your chances that you'll get Google Voice next, which means you'll be on your way to blocking emails, dropping calls, and removing unwanted distractions from your life -- as soon as absolutely necessary.

Dating spreadsheet causes uproar

It seems everyone is in a huff over the finance guy who made an Excel spreadsheet of his dates and shared it with a prospective date.

If this is news to you. Here's what you need to know:
  • David Merkur is really good at making spreadsheets. If you need one made on Excel, you should probably hire him.
  • David Merkur dates (or at least used to date) on
  • David Merkur rates (or at least used to rate) his dates using his Excel spreadsheet
  • David Merkur went on a date with a woman named Arielle and put his foot in-his-mouth (mistake #1) when he told her about his nifty spreadsheet (it actually is a beautiful spreadsheet, take a look)
  • David Merkur emailed his spreadsheet to Arielle (mistake #2) who emailed it to her friends
  • David Merkur failed to remove personal identifiers of the women he dated from the spreadsheet (three strikes David Merkur)

David Merkur is not evil. In my opinion, David Merkur is organized. He's young. He has "send-itis." If you've taken my InvestiDate workshop you know I tell you to get historical not hysterical. David should've backed away from his computer.

What can we, as daters, learn here? Firstly, his spreadsheet is fantastic. It's organized, it's attractive, it's color-coded, it would be incredibly useful to an investigator if you went on a date and didn't come back. The photos, whereabouts, phone numbers, etc. are a goldmine of information. Kudos to David Merkur. That said, it's not something I would encourage you to ever share. It's a file that I would encourage you to keep safely stored in your Date-a-Base and if you've created your Date-a-Base in gmail then it's a private google document that only you and your two best buds with the password to your document may access, for worst case scenario purposes as explained in InvestiDate: How to Investigate Your Date.

Next -- how not to become a "victim" on said spreadsheet
You can't control your thumbnail photo ending up on someone's spreadsheet.

You can control your email and phone number ending up on a similar spreadsheet and being broadcast to the world.

Here's how:
  • only register and use your Date-a-Base email address for dating, which solves the email problem instantly.
  • Use GoogleVoice for phone and until you enter into an exclusive relationship with someone only use that GoolgeVoice phone number.
  • If you don't like that idea, visit or any other big box chain and get a $10-$30 pre-paid cell phone. I just ordered this tracfone bundle for a book launch party and will probably hand it out to a few suitors along the way.

So, before you go throwing David Merkur, whom I've never met by the way, under the bus, be honest -- you've never assigned a numerical value to someone? Not even in your head? You've never thought, wow, he's a 10? She's a solid  9.5? No? Never? Sorry, I don't believe you.

Online dating sites sued for using dead soldier's photo and are being sued for allegedly using a fallen soldier's photo in their ads for "Military Man Searching for Love."

The parents of Army Lt. Peter Burks have sued both dating sites. They say their son's photo was used in ads without their permission.

"The implication is that, if you click here, this is one of our members. This is somebody you'll meet -- and people like him -- when this fallen hero has been dead three or four years," attorney Rogge Dunn, of Clouse Dunn LLP in Dallas, who filed the lawsuit on behalf of Burks' parents, told NBC.

Dunn sent a cease-and-desist letter to, based in Vancouver. The company has since agreed to remove the ad. Star Local News reports there has been no response to a similar letter from based in Dallas.